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A Primer on Self Pleasuring By
Dr. Ruth Westheimer

Self Pleasuring is a term I often use to describe masturbation. Because it’ an experience which should be pleasurable whether you do it by yourself or have someone do it for you. Masturbation is a completely natural way to relieve sexual tension and provide sexual release. It feels good and it can teach you things you may have never known about your own body or your own sexuality. It’s no wonder that so many millions of women masturbate regularly.
Self pleasuring allows you the time and space you need to explore your own body, to get to know it, to experiment with those sensations which are most exciting and pleasurable to you... to discover exactly what fantasies turn you on... what tempo arouses you what kind of pressure pleases you... and where you’re pleased the most.

“... a woman who knows how to pleasure herself can teach the art to a lover.”

I’ve said many times that a women who knows how to pleasure herself can teach the art to a lover. And the vast majority of woman can learn to have fulfilling orgasms. The Eroscillator® is perfectly designed to provide the help you may need. It adds spice to self pleasuring and is the only truly modern sex aid to virtually guarantee sexual pleasure.

Using your Eroscillator®

CONGRATULATIONS! By purchasing the Eroscillator®, you’ve purchased the finest mechanical aid ever developed to help you achieve faster, easier, better orgasms. It is not a vibrator. The Eroscillator® “oscillates” and the effect is capable of stimulating the clitoral area and other parts of the body to produce the most intense erotic sensations. Now that you’ve bought the Eroscillator®, what do you do with it? That depends upon whether or not you are already orgasmic. If you have no problems having an orgasm, then the Eroscillator® can help you, by yourself, (or with yiur partner using it on you) to have even more intense orgasms. If you have never had an orgasm or you felt that what you experienced was so mild that you weren’t sure whether or not you “really” had an orgasm, I’ll suggest a program of exercises to help you learn how to become fully orgasmic with the aid of the Eroscillator®.

“... learn how to become fully orgasmic with the aid of The Eroscillator®.”

Everyone, orgasmic or not, should read all the instructions below. Because all of it will apply to you at one time or another when you use your Eroscillator®.

IF YOU ARE ALREADY ORGASMIC

When you use the Eroscillator® by yourself creating the right setting is very important. What is the right setting? That depends on what has worked for you in the past. No matter how good you believe your orgasms have been, you can alter the experience and often the intensity of the orgasms if you create a more sensual mood by:
- first taking a bubble bath
- lying down on dark satin sheets
- using lowered lighting or low wattage red bulbs or candlelight
- sipping a glass of wine or nibbing on a delicious piece of chocolate
- listening to your favorite music in the background, and,
- above all, fantasize, and fantasize!

“... above all, fantasize, fantasize and fantasize!”

Make sure that you have time and the privacy to experiment with the Eroscillator® in new ways. You will notice that among the interchangeable heads that came with the Eroscillator® handle is the digital head , about three inches long. It is called a digital head because it resembles, in how you use it, the motions of the finger. You should use this head near and on those areas of the clitoris and vagina that you already know respond to your finger. Using just a light pressure of the digital head with the low setting of the Eroscillator® in the same manner as you ordinarily do with your finger, will result in an orgasm in much less time than your fingers and certainly without that tiredness in the hand that so many women experience.
Another use of the digital or finger head is to explore the range of variability of sensations you may experience all around the clitoris in particular. It will allow you to explore - for many of you for the first time - the precise differences in erotic sensations to be found within tha vagina when these areas are stimulated. Use this digital head to explore, very slowly the different places it can reach so that you get to know the erotic responses of your vagina as you never have before. It may be that one very small spot may produce an erotic responses of your vagina as you never have erotic sensation like no other spot. There is no way we can tell you precisely which places, when stimulated, produce the most erotic sensations - only you can determine that - but we can say that you will enjoy exploring and “mapping” out the most erogenous points within, as well as on the outside of your vagina.

“... you get to know the erotic responses of your vagina as you never have before.”

As an additional power ful source of erotic sensations, the concave cup head is wonderful to use over your nipple (or anywhere else you desire) or on your partner’s nipple. The reverse side is ball shapped and can also be used to explore the inside of the vagina as well as the different soft areas all around the vagina. Since it is ball shaped, rather than finger shaped as the digital head, you will notice different sensations when you use it. When you first begin your explorations, use the lowest setting and don’t dwell too long in one spot even though it may really feel good, because you will want to learn what the Eroscillator® can do for you that no vibrator can. Indeed, you really want to “map out” the vagina. Once you have located one or more of these points, after you have tried these “mapping” explorations a few times, then you may experiment with varying the intensity on one spot or more until you reach orgasm. Don’t be disappointed if you do not reach orgasms with the digital finger or the ball and cup heads inside the vagina on one of these erotic locations because many women do not. Why some women can and others cannot is still not completely known, but don’t worry, you can always use one of the interchangeable heads on the outer part of the vagina and around the clitoris and, for most women who are already orgasmic, bring yourself to intense orgasm rather quickly. Also, the ball & cup head has been found ideal to locate and stimulate the G point inside the vagina.

“... it is uniquely designed to take maximum advantage of the oscillating movement which places The Eroscillator® in a class by itself.”

All of the heads that come with the Eroscillator® may be used on the outer and inner lips of the vagina and the clitoris. You might want to begin with the digital head. This head permits you to more gently control the pressure of the Eroscillator® on your body. By lightly touching the clitoris with the oscillating head, after you have placed some lufrication on the head, you can gradually and with much sensitivity increase the pressure until you find the right pressure that most pleases you. Try all the heads and you will find that each gives you a different sensation due to the ddifferent ways in which the oscillating heads touch the sensitive areas of your vagina. In particular, you will find, as many women have, that the short head with the ten tiny balls covering it, the cluster or grapes, will probably produce the most intensive orgasms of all because it is uniquely designed to take maximum advantage of the oscillating movement which places the Eroscillator® in a class by itself. In all cases, you can often help the rapidity of achieving the orgasm by lubricating the head with the secretions from your vagina or your favorite lubricant. The shell shaped head was specially developped for anal or vaginal stimulation and penetration.

IF YOU ARE NOT ORGASMIC

If you have never had an orgasm, it is most likely that this due to insufficient training of the vaginal-clitoral system to respond to stimulation with that natural reflex that gives so much pleasure. For most women, all they need to do to become orgasmic is to provide the clitoris and the clitoral area with the necessary erotic stimulation that will bring on the orgasm. But, you may want to help “mother nature” out a little bit.

“... you may want to help ‘mother nature’ out a little bit.”

Just as we said earlier, you need to create the physical and psychological mood that makes you feel most secure and psychologically turned on before you begin to use the Eroscillator®. All the mood creating methods we mentioned above, and any other that you think might get you “in the mood” erotically, should be tried by you. What works for many women is the repetition of those methods that worked for men in the past. Also, if it works for you, rent an “adult” video that may excite you. But most importantly, as you practice with the Eroscillator®, build up in your mind a repertoire of erotic images or short vignettes of erotic fantasies and keep your mind focused on these fantasies while you use the Eroscillator®.
Don’t worry about when and if you will reach orgasm. If you inject these negative thoughts into your mind the orgasm is less likely to happen than if you just give yourself over to these wonderful sensations that you feel as you use the Eroscillator®.

“... just give yourself over to wonderful sensations you feel.”

After you are relaxed, and know that you will not be disturbed, begin by using the digital head. But, before you even turn it on, turn yourself on by touching yourself all over, slowly, with your hands. Gently move your hands up and down your body and just feel. Don’t think! Just feel the sensations as your hands move slowly over your face, your arms, your breasts, your nipples, your abdomen, your tights and everywhere else your hands can reach - except for the clitoris. Instead, as your hands slowly move from your abdomen to the edge of the pubic hair and through the hair of the thighs, gently touch the area around the clitoris a few times - as if in passing - and down to the thighs. Tease yourself. Let the Eroscillator® do the work later.
If you do not find yourself becoming more nad more aroused, repeat the process, but this time, use the most erotic thoughts and fantasies you can imagine. Let yourself go. These are your private thoughts and you can think and imagine anything you please.

“... use the most erotic thoughts and fantasies you can imagine. Let yourself go.”

When you feel that excitement beginning and you can increase the excitement by more and more erotic fantasizing, then take the Eroscillator® with the digital head and lubricate the head by placing your finger inside your vagina and transferring this lubrication to the head. Then, starting on the low aetting, begin to gently apply the Eroscillator® to the bottom of the vaginal opening and work your way to the top, on one side, very slowly. When you reach the top, start again in the outside, near the bottom and work your way up towards the clitoral area, but this time on the other side. Don’t dwell on the clitoris or near the clitoris for more than a secon or two. Each time you start at the bottom, move closer to the entrance of the vagina and as you reach the top spend a few seconds more near or on the clitoris. Since women vary as to how the area around the clitoris and the clitoris itself responds to stimulation, you should use these exercises to learn how and where the Eroscillator® pleases you best. Every once in a while, as you repeat this cycle move the head inside the vagina to pick up more lubrication. Become aware of the sensations. Don’t think about an orgasm, but only feel what is happening to you. After a few minutes, pick out those areas that are most stimulating and increase the setting of the Eroscillator® to see if it is even more stimulating. At the same time, think of the most erotic fantasy you can imagine and allow sensation and erotic fantasy to be the sole occupants of your mind.
You will have an orgasm. If not the first time you use the Eroscillator® then on the second or the third. The key is to experiment to find which of the heads is most stimulating to you and to practice with fantasy while you allow the EroscillatorÂ® to do the work. It seems that for most women we have talked to, the progression of intensity of stimulation goes from the digital head, to the ball and cup head, and finally, the most intense of all, the grape cluster head. The shell shaped head was specially designed to allow penetration. Use it whenever you feel ready.

WITH A PARTNER

After you are familiar with the many different sensations that the Eroscillator® can give you, bring your partner in on it. Most partners love to use the Eroscillator® on their loved one when they see the great pleasure that it brings.

“... most partners love to use the Eroscillator® on their loved ones.”

And, because of the shape, it is a very effective aid to help women who are orgasmic, but not during intercourse, to become so. If this is one of your goals, you may achieve it by using the Eroscillator® while sitting on top of your male partner while his penis is inside of you. In this position, you should move rather gently up and down the penis while at the same time stimulating your clitoris or clitoral area very intensely with the Eroscillator®. Every once in a while, touch the penis with the oscillating head and give your lover a treat. He will love it too!

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